Make sure you’re asking the right questions. If it’s not about you and your goal, you should probably get off the phone.
Don’t be afraid of asking uncomfortable questions about your own life; instead, use your answers as resources.
Here are a few things you should consider before you reach out:
Is it worth the hassle? What’s your plan to actually achieve and accomplish? What do you want your life to look like and how does what you’d like to be doing affect everything else?
What’s your plan to actually achieve and accomplish? What do you want your life to look like and how does what you’d like to be doing affect everything else? Are there things I’m doing that I haven’t done? Will that effect everything else I do? Do you feel an inner voice telling you to get to work? Do you have trouble making plans or making decisions? Do you have a sense of entitlement? Have you been trying to solve these problems?
Do you want the program to be successful? Do you want your coach to make you feel comfortable? If you want it to be more of a “I’m going to be helpful when I need to be” type thing, then you’re going to need an “I need you to help when I do need to be” type person in your life.
Do you want to make a change? If you’re making changes at home, do they affect your coach? If they’re going to affect your coach’s job, will his or her new job be easier?
For instance, I’m a writer. I also live in the city and work in the city. So I’m doing a writer’s workshop once a month, but don’t live in my studio or I might need to move. I can’t afford a lot of other things – gas, groceries, etc. I need to go to the workshop.
I also teach sports (I’m an agent and my friend/teacher is a coach/manager/etc.) I’m the best teacher, but I’m also my friend, so I’m always available. If I’ve missed two or three sessions, I’ll put my phone on hold for the next one as I figure this out.
Is it worth the hassle? Yes, but not if your coach isn’t great. This type of advice is usually given to “overly stressed” people. They’re not being paid to speak their mind, or telling you to go to